A lot of my guy friends wonder how French women love so freely and why Indian women have so little to offer without getting preachy…lol
Well, I don’t blame the men. I don’t blame the girls either. I want to blame…hmmm…as usual the SYSTEM. And also our hurry to change the SYSTEM.
The arrival of Tinder and many such apps has happened in the last 2-3 years and we already have stereotypes and a huge need to describe and define the Tinder experiences. Tag the type of men and tag the type of women who come there and tag what they say, tag what they want, tag, tag, tag.
As if there were so many options to have encounters before Tinder in our SYSTEM. And as if, we have to achieve some goal through something all the time.
The meeting through the very ‘purpose-oriented’ online life partner search portals comes with a shelf life and a pretty much subconsciously ‘pre-defined’ system for how it must go, the process thereafter and so on.
And now we are doing the same thing to Tinder and similar such apps. Defining what it is or what it must become?
Those portals involved families at some level, so we had different sets of actions and expectations.
These portals are secretive and personal so we have different sets of actions and expectations.
So if a girl didn’t want to have fun, then why did she put such a tempting picture? If a guy does excess compliments on day one, how desperate he must be, what a creep? OMG, she looks like a Land Whale. OMG, he is so fugly & fake. And then there is the final one. Here to meet someone interesting. Mate with someone interesting. Date someone interesting. Interesting, interesting, interesting. What the hell is interesting? If you want entertainment, watch TV, hang out with people if you are interesting at all to have a few in your life. Strangers come with strangeness not some spontaneous, stand-up comedy or talk show skills.
Guys don’t know how to get Indian women to have fun. How to get her to be in her own skin…they don’t know when will she get all feminist. When will she get offended or hurt. When will she want to get married. May be fake talks of love and marriage will get her in her true skin…so on and so forth.
So they go all the way out to show they know how to love or they are very interesting or they are well-settled. Desperate times call for desperate measures. So be easy with them. If possible, playful. And ya those married ones, pity them or they may know more than the single ones. Lol
Most girls were told in subtle as well as lurid ways to not have anything called the true skin. True love is for the innocent, says Bollywood unabashedly. Lol. And the Real She Skin often out-rightly makes you fall in the cunning, conniving or even naïve compartments. Who wants to deal with all of that? So the girls are either hiding it or are not even aware of it. Those who bare it like the Shakiras and the Beyonces have the Gerard Piques and Jay Zs of the world around them. Jay Z has been TIME human of the year type of thing since forever now.
So if you can’t get her, you were either timid yourself or too bold to pass as cold…Let luck be on your side next time. Lol. And ya for you all too, those married ones, pity them or they may know more than the single ones.
Well, the good news for all of us is that now there is a Tinder and more such purposeless streets in the online world where people bare their hearts, minds, even bodies and are trying to wander freely to kill time or find something. Who knows? However, I do think those streets are not for all of us. If we cannot handle without hope or judgment another free spirited human around us, we must avoid visiting.
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